Tips for Avoiding a Contested Divorce

An uncontested divorce is when you and your spouse agree on all the issues related to your divorce, including alimony, child support (if applicable), timesharing (if applicable), and property division. If you and your spouse do not agree on all or some of the divorce-related issues, you cannot pursue a contested divorce but, instead, have to go to court and pursue a contested divorce. In court, the judge will decide the issues in your divorce. If you are like many people, you most likely want an uncontested divorce. But how can you avoid a contested divorce? Below, we share some of the steps you can take to avoid a contested divorce.

Tip #1: Understand the Consequences of a Contested Divorce

The first step you should take if you want to avoid a contested divorce is to understand the consequences of such a divorce. After you understand the repercussions of a contested divorce, you may be motivated to avoid it. The following are some of the cons of a contested divorce;

  • A contested divorce is likely to be lengthy
  • A contested divorce is likely to be expensive
  • A contested divorce will most likely drain you emotionally
  • A contested divorce is likely to create hostility between you and your spouse

Tip #2: Focus on the Big Picture

Focusing on your main goals can help you avoid a contested divorce. If you are like many people, you probably want to, among other things, get a fair share of the marital property, get a favorable timesharing ruling, and get adequate child support and alimony. The best way to achieve your main goals is to be in control of the final outcome of your divorce case. In court, the judge has control over the final outcome of your divorce case.

Tip #3: Be Open to Compromise

You need to know that you are unlikely to achieve everything you want to achieve in your divorce settlement. If you are unwilling to negotiate and compromise, it may be impossible to reach a divorce agreement. You need to be willing to give up some things.

List your goals in order of priority so you can know what you can and can’t give up. During your divorce, try to get the things at the top of your list and avoid fighting over the things at the bottom of your list that you are willing to give up.

Tip #4: Work With Professionals

Divorce issues might seem complicated, and you may think the only way to resolve divorce-related issues is by going to trial. Fortunately, professionals are available to help you resolve divorce-related issues without going to court. Some of the professionals you can work with include an appraiser, a finance professional, a therapist, and a divorce lawyer. It is advisable that you consult a divorce lawyer as soon as possible. A lawyer can advise you on the professionals who can help you resolve divorce-related issues without going to court.

Tip #5: Stay Calm

Finally, you must stay calm throughout the divorce process if you want to avoid a contested divorce. Indeed, there will be times when you get angry, but remember that outbursts can lead to conflicts, which can end negotiation sessions prematurely and result in you having to go to court.  

Contact Tampa Bay Legal Center for Legal Help

At Tampa Bay Legal Center, we can help you achieve a favorable divorce settlement regardless of whether you pursue a contested or uncontested divorce. Contact us today to schedule a consultation.


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