Divorce can be very hard for children. Fortunately, there are steps that parents can take to reduce the effect of divorce on children. In the first part of the article titled “Ways To Minimize the Effect of Divorce on Children,” we shared five tips for reducing the effect of divorce on children. These five tips are;
- Avoid fighting in front of your children
- Avoid saying negative things about the other parent
- Avoid telling your children too much
- Learn to co-parent peacefully
- Talk and listen to your children
In this article, we share six more tips for minimizing the effect of divorce on children.
Plan When to Tell Your Children
You and the other parent should plan to sit down with the children and share the news about the divorce together. While there is no perfect time to tell children about divorce, you want to ensure you avoid sharing the news in a moment of intense anger or anguish. Ensure you and the other parent are emotionally stable and can talk calmly with the children. Additionally, you should only tell your children about the divorce when the decision is firm and before major decisions happen in the household.
Have Age-Appropriate Conversations
When talking to your children about divorce, you need to be careful about the way you approach the conversation. You should have age-appropriate conversations with your children. Consider every child on an individual level and how they may react. Explain divorce to each child based on their age and level of development.
Plan One on One Time
Children need attention and affection all the time. However, they will most likely need more affection and attention during this time. It is important that you schedule one-on-one time with each child. Spending one-on-one time with each child will allow your children to have your full attention. It might also make your children feel comfortable raising their concerns or asking you questions.
Seek Support for Yourself
You need to care for yourself to be able to care for your children. Reach out to people you know you can lean on, such as family members, friends, coworkers, and neighbors. Counseling, online forums, and support groups are other options you can consider.
As a parent, you should avoid seeking emotional support from your children. Seeking support from your children can place an undue burden on them. You want your children to focus on their emotional needs without the added weight of parental burdens.
Provide a Routine
Divorce can create a sense of uncertainty and chaos for children. There are several benefits of providing children with a routine. Providing a routine can help children feel safe and secure. Additionally, it can give children a sense of control.
Finally, to minimize the effect of divorce on your children, encourage them to spend time with both parents. Unless you are concerned about your child’s safety, you should not discourage them from spending time with the other parent. Also, encourage your child to spend time with other family members, such as aunts, uncles, and grandparents.
Contact a Family Law Attorney
For legal help, contact the qualified family law attorneys at Tampa Bay Legal Center, P.A.